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"You cannot love others if you do not honestly love yourself. Having a poor opinion of yourself - whether there is reason for it or not - will be reflected in your attitude toward the people around you. If you are tortured by being too short or too homely or too unsuccessful, your resentment will smolder until it flares into hostility toward the rest of the world."
- James Bender

Light

When deadlocked, it could be worth trying to start with an idea of helping others.

In our deeds in daily life, there are elements of benefiting someone else.

Our daily work or even trivial actions can be contributing to somebody.

With that awareness, we can consciously act while thinking our deeds can have positive impacts.

We can more focus on that consciousness rather than simply doing jobs to be done.

This could be comforting even if doing trivial work.

It could be more satisfying than personal success for just one's own sake.

It could lead to more positive behavior that helps someone and society.

If such deeds are helping others, this will eventually and naturally result in greater consequences.

Preoccupation with egoistic success could narrow and darken one's perspective, thinking and existence itself.

Even if in a dark place, when one lights up for others, one will be able to see own path as well.

Dignity

There may be time when one has to reconcile oneself to a totally unfair situation.

One may have to accept a position much lower than the person deserves.

One may have to serve and bow down to something unwillingly.

It may continue for an unreasonably long period of time.

With such hopelessness, one may lose any prospect for the future.

One may become numb and unable to feel any sense of self-respect.

But, never be servile in attitude.

Keep a pride and dignity of own self.

Remember the hope and aspiration which one originally possessed.

Never had them cut off.

Let them breathe.

Never be defeated by the present circumstance.

Believe the day when the dignity is fully recovered, and the aspiration is completely fulfilled.

Roll back the pressure of adversity and disadvantage.

Any of them.

Roar like a lion in mind.

And further, fight against what is called destiny.

Beat it off, and drive it off.

And, win a total victory.